I have a little rant today!
I just want to know, why, oh, why, do swingers feel the need to advertise themselves on nudist sites? There are soooo many swingers sites that I don't see why they have to do it?
What's the problem you may ask?
Well, I have a beach I go to that isn't suitable for kids and has also been threatened with closure due to sexual activity!
Don't get me wrong a lot of the problems have been from single guys or groups of gay men, but there have also been problems with groups of swingers having sex on the beach, especially later in the early evening.
Nudism has a very poor press and nudists are often seen as weird sex perverts and sex pests. I believe that much if not all of this stems from inappropriate sexual behaviour from non-nudists, or people that enjoy nudism (because it is an amazing way to be) but can't seem to control their sexual urges for the appropriate time and place!
I went on to a site call 'True Nudists' thinking it will be a relaxed and easy going place for people that aren't out for sex, specifically because I was sick of all the sexualisation of nudism. How wrong can you be? I saw couples advertising for meet ups, one guy with a erection in his photo and many other obviously sexual profiles.
For the new nudist, especially a youngster or single female looking for friends or info, this sort of thing would probably scare them off for life! It's quite a scarey thing to get into on your own anyway, without your first impression being that it's all about sex!
The nudist fraternity is very thin on the ground as it is and young nudists are few and far between. I believe that such sexualisation of nudism has a detrimental effect on the perception of nudity and nudism in general.
Single men are seen with real suspicion and it is very hard to get into a nudist club as a single male (I know, I tried!). Again, the lack of self control of the few ruin it for the many!
I would like nudism to become a mainstream activity and be normal on all beaches! However, this will never happen while some selfish individuals taint the intention of the many.
My first time to a nude beach was an amazing and slightly scary time!
After my uni trip I was determined to try being a nudist and I actually went to the beach where my uni trip had been held, after all, it was the only nude beach I knew of and it was fairly close.
I got to the beach and parked up, self conscious that everyone 'knew' where I was going. At the time I was young and single and single guys in the nudist scene are mostly thought of as pervs.
I got to the beach and went right to the end where I thought it was quiet, although I was told by a guy sitting on a deck chair that I couldn't go any further as the quiet bit was an RSPB nature reserve!
So I thought, well this is me then. I got a towel out sat down and started to get undressed.
My God was it weird! Here I was getting undressed in public!
I was eventually totally naked and it felt amazing!
I was very nervous for quite a while and just kept my head down and read. After a while I sat up and began to look around a bit.
As I looked around I remember thinking that there seemed to be a lot of men around! In fact, there were no women at all! How strange I thought and thought nothing more of it.
After about 15 minutes of seeing nothing but men at my end but clearly seeing women at the other, the penny dropped! I was in the gay section!
By this time I had calmed down quite a bit and was getting much braver, so I thought, right, I'm going to do it, I'm going to get up and move! This obviously entailed walking past umptine people totally naked! OMG!
I thought I CAN DO THIS!
So, I gathered up my things and began the journey!
Walking out of the gay section was fairly easy, but then I spotted a woman laying about 100 yards in front of me and another walking towards me with a guy. Now I was worried! Ihadn't really thought about facing a strange woman totally naked! What if she was really hot? Would I get excited? What was I going to do?
I pushed myself to keep walking, even though the thought of sitting down immediately was quite tempting!
As I drew closer I noticed how, er, 'large' the guy was and how large I wasn't! I was dying! A fear I never really had before came to the surface!
Do I sit now, or keep going? I decided to keep going!! I don't know how or what pushed me passed the fear but I just went for it!
As I neared the couple we smiled and walked on, and, well, that was it! No one took any notice other than to say hi!!
After that walking past the lady laying down was a breeze!
I finally found a spot that looked nice, not too out of it, but not too close to anyone. To my left was a group of topless women with half a dozen kids and to my right were a couple of young girls.
I spread my towel out and sat down down. It was heaven laying there in the sun, totally naked.
I went back to reading my book and every now and then got up to look around and have a drink. It was such an amazing feeling and by this time I was totally relaxed.
I even got up and had a little walk about a couple of times! Saying hi to people on the way past.
As the day drew on the girls to my right got up and left and I remember thinking how beautiful they looked naked, but not in the normal 'sexy way' that most guys (and even my self previously) would have thought, but more just an apprecition of their beauty as people.
For me my first day at a nude beach was almost a 'hippy' experience, I felt relaxed and at one with the world!
I first became interested in nudism when I was at uni. I was on a field trip at the beach there happened to be a nude beach right where we were. I only saw 1 naked guy that day that happened to walk fairly near our group (well, I say near, I mean a few hundred yards).
The lecturer saw him and said 'by the way this is a nude beach'. The tittering began and all the jokes, but deep down I thought I am gagging to try that!
Well, that's my first post!
Previous PostsNudism / Naturism and swingers, posted December 1st, 2012
First Time Nudist, posted November 25th, 2012
Nudist beginnings, posted November 25th, 2012
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